Thomas asks…
Any ideas for a sleepover?
okay so during the summer i am having a sleepover with two friends during the summer. here’s what i have planned so far
~we will be sleeping in a tent outside(it’s like a camping scary theme,i’ll continue on)
~we will sit around a camp fire and make smores
~for dinner we will have a BBQ type food
~We will tell scary stories
~maybe a truth or dare session
~Ouija board maybe
~a movie on this portable dvd player or inside
okay that’s all i have, so if you have any ideas that invlove camping kind of stuff please tell me and also if you have some scary games or anything that would be great to,just please any ideas you have tell me
and we will spend most of our time outside.
Martin answers:
Have a campfire and toast marshmallows
you can play like murder in the dark >:D
i dont think you should have ‘sessions’
i mean like if everyone is having fun
playing truth or dare and the ‘session’ is over
then it’ld be no fun
Mary asks…
What kind of things should for this sleepover?
okay so during the summer i am having a sleepover with two friends during the summer. here’s what i have planned so far
~we will be sleeping in a tent outside(it’s like a camping scary theme,i’ll continue on)
~we will sit around a camp fire and make smores
~for dinner we will have a BBQ type food
~We will tell scary stories
~maybe a truth or dare session
~Ouija board maybe
okay that’s all i have, so if you have any ideas that invlove camping kind of stuff please tell me and also if you have some scary games or anything that would be great to,just please any ideas you have tell me
we will probably be outside for most of the time
Martin answers:
Are you outside the whole time?
Otherwise I’d totally recommend a few scary movies before heading out.
Laura asks…
I hated food all my life, what can i do?
Alliright…I’m in my early twenties, when i was 3 or 4 i stopped eating normally. I was never really included in family meals, my mum always cooked me my own meals. Usually just a toasted sandwich or something..
Any food situations in my life have been highly stressfull or avoided at all costs. This includes school camps, christmas lunch (ya, worst day of the year), mates birthday dinners, bbq‘s.
Also defiantly includes dinner with a girlfriend or a women. But i’ve only had one girlfriend in my life and the closet thing i had to a nice dinner with her was Fish n Chips.
I KNOW!!! Fukn pathetic ay!
At this point in my life food it overbearing. I wander the isles of my supermarket hopelessly looking for a new food which i would like to try. But i never find anything. The food situation in my house ain’t too good either. It’s just me and my mum at home, my brother and sister have moved out. My mum’s main dietary intake and daily routine is a pack of smokes, a few glasses of cheap wine and the occasional crying sesh in front of the fire place. We are also nearly broke, $3000 in the bank.
My mood swings with my diet, last week i was trying new foods and i was feeling good. As is stands i have no food that i enjoy eating. I cook and eat the same old food everyday. I swear i’ve eaten more Mi-goreng noodles than anyone else in the world. They don’t taste too good after the one-thousandth time.
Your probably curious as to why i can’t just eat normally, try new foods and stuff. But strange as this sounds it’s truly hard.
To describe what it’s like; Last week i was trying to eat a tub of yogurt. Firstly the smell of a new food sends a shiver up my spine. Then i begin to get anxious about the idea of putting an unknown food into my mouth. I have to psych myself into trying it. When i put it into my mouth i cringe. Instinct kicks in my mind feels like it can’t interpret the taste. All i can think is that’s it a bad food.
Last time i tried yogurt i broke down everything about it, I in fact liked the smell, the taste, the texture wasn’t too bad.
This is going to sound crazy and stupid but it feels like there is block in my head with food. A built up fear of of memories, I think if i could simply remove the block then i would be ok.
Right now i’m seeing a dietitian and a psychologist about this. I weird when i type that. To me i think that i’m making too much of my issues and people will think i’m just this idiot who can’t put food in his mouth and enjoy it.
Everyday is hard. Trying to find a new food to eat, going out is hard as i have a bit of social anxiety. I am really tall and skinny, 6ft4″ and 71kg. No muscle what so ever, due to lack of protien in my diet since the early years.
Overcoming this issue feels bigger than climbing everest. No joke. I’m terrified of food.
That’s it from me, thanks for reading. If there’s anyone out there who is like me i’d love to here your story.
Thanks Agian
Martin answers:
I sympathise, I really do. My earliest memories go back to when I was sitting by myself at a dinner table age four, everybody finished and I was there alone staring at my food and refusing to eat. To this day I dislike food, and as soon as something stressfull comes up, I cannot even swallow it and what is inside me I will throw up by purging and it will give me relief.
I think a psychologist will tell you that it has to do with you feeling powerless in one or more ways, and this is the way you regain a bit of control in your life. I don’t know if you’re into that stuff but I am reading some psychological stuff that is giving me real good insights into my behavior. Because it is a psychological issue that probably comes from an emotional issue, judging by how you talk about your mum, your home situation is causing you to think and behave that way. Maybe not consciously or directly, but I believe it can be traced back to your home and family and what you said, a very young age.
The dietician……..I don’t like the way they work, I know everything about food and they cannot convince me they know better and trying to get someone to eat from a dieticians point of view I don’t believe it works.
What is important is that an unhealthy -mal-nourished- body might respond differently to a stimulus (The smell or prospect or sight of food) and get grossed out in stead of watering at the mouth. Try vitamin and mineral substitutes for a while, you need to eat a little as you take them to absorb them, to make sure you have the physical effects of what your body might need and is not getting sorted.
The more you worry the worse it get’s right?
I’m reading something on script theory ( by Berne) and I think it is very applicable to your situation. So going to counselling is a good step.
The rest of the world tends to take the lack of the desire to eat not serious because as long as you look healthy there is no problem, but it can make you feel horrible all day because of not only what your body lacks to function healthily, but it makes you an outcast, and the lack of joy of food is known to cause or aggravate depression.
It takes forever however to get a psychologist to make an assesment and draw conclusions, so I figured I’d just do it myself, got myself a book written for counsellors and psychologists as a guide to treat patients. I would love to help you further but I am lacking the info needed to see what exactly your situation is.
Good luck with it and hope you won’t get stuck.
Try some fruit smoothies, get plenty of fresh air and sunlight. It helps against feeling depressed and gives you a bit of an appetite maybe. Plus it will get you out of the house, I tell you, more of this has been caused by the wino than you realize right now.
Lisa asks…
I Need Help Planning A Event?
I’m planning a new year countdown for me and my friends, but I’ having problems deciding what to do, we cannot go camping because the girls and some guys don’t like the fact that we won’t have a shower and toilet, bbq b the beach is a no coz we had enough bbqs to make sure we hated it…, chalets and hotels are a no coz it’s impossible to book one, no dinner or lunch coz too boring for them, so ideas pls? take note i reside in singapore… thx loads
oh srry i forgot to mention house party is out coz all our houses suck and yeah…
Martin answers:
Go to somebodies house and have a big blowout party
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