Why are women so hard on other women about their engagement rings?

I’ve noticed on here that women get a little heated when it comes to the subject of engagement rings. There seems to be two camps. Those that think that a girl should just be happy to receive ‘any ring at all’, they say things like ‘I’d be happy with a piece of string’ or ‘I’d be happy with a ring from a cracker jack box, or a gumball machine’ Which is great, I realize some women don’t even get e-rings. So I am in no way judging them. We all have our own tastes & preferences. If they really don’t care about *if* or what type of ring they get because its the ‘thought that counts’ then good for them. But why put other girls down who do care?

I’ve noticed they do an awful lot of name calling to the girls who are disappointed with their e-rings. It’s one thing to chastise a girl for being superficial, if she really is being superficial. For example if she wants an upgrade simply for status purposes or she is trying to bully her fiance into buying something he cannot afford, then I agree. But alot of the times these girls have been dreaming of a certain style or size of a ring for a long time. Why are they wrong for not loving *any* ring a man chooses for them? I would never buy my fiance some generic baseball jersey and say ‘you love baseball, it’s a baseball jersey, so what if it’s not the team you love? I got it for you, so now you’re being shallow & selfish for wanting a baseball jersey in a team you love’ I would take into account his preferences.

Isn’t the point of an e-ring is that it’s a *gift* to her to show his love and commitment. If she doesn’t love it then shouldn’t she? Wouldn’t he want to know if she was wearing something that she didn’t like? I for example hate yellow gold & I would be disappointed if my ring was yellow gold. I would have said something to my fiance & went back and traded it in for white gold. No shame in having specific preferences. I talked to my fiance about this and he said he would be hurt if he found out he got it wrong when it came to my e-ring & would want to take it back and for me to tell him because the ring was a gift and he wants me to be happy.

My fiance thankfully got my input before buying my ring, I loved that he took the time & consideration to care that I loved it. I asked a question about this on here recently and all these girls jumped down my throat calling me names. I say get off your high horse, stop being so judgmental. If you don’t care about the ring then great but don’t put down other girls just because they do. Some of us just care more about what our e-rings look like that doesn’t mean we are all gold digging superficial women.
I understand all your points but the criticism seems especially harsh on this website. My ring is a little over a carat. Nothing too crazy and he saved up and paid cash for it. I would never have him go into debt over a ring. Especially since we live together and our finances are somewhat combined. But I posted a question on here earlier and all the girls started jumping down my throat telling me I was superficial and insulting my ring. It baffled me. I asked a question about which type of wedding band would go best with my ring, not even about the e-ring itself. Anyway It just got me worked up.

Women please help me!!?

Should i go on a camping trip with my freind her mom and two sister even if i have my monthly gift?

Women and engagement rings?

I’ve noticed on here that women get a little heated when it comes to the subject of engagement rings. There seems to be two camps. Those that think that a girl should just be happy to receive ‘any ring at all’, they say things like ‘I’d be happy with a piece of string’ or ‘I’d be happy with a ring from a cracker jack box, or a gumball machine’ Which is great, I realize some women don’t even get e-rings. So I am in no way judging them. We all have our own tastes & preferences. If they really don’t care about *if* or what type of ring they get because its the ‘thought that counts’ then good for them. But why put other girls down who do care?

I’ve noticed they do an awful lot of name calling to the girls who are disappointed with their e-rings. It’s one thing to chastise a girl for being superficial, if she really is being superficial. For example if she wants an upgrade simply for status purposes or she is trying to bully her fiance into buying something he cannot afford, then I agree. But alot of the times these girls have been dreaming of a certain style or size of a ring for a long time. Why are they wrong for not loving *any* ring a man chooses for them? I would never buy my fiance some generic baseball jersey and say ‘you love baseball, it’s a baseball jersey, so what if it’s not the team you love? I got it for you, so now you’re being shallow & selfish for wanting a baseball jersey in a team you love’ I would take into account his preferences.

Isn’t the point of an e-ring is that it’s a *gift* to her to show his love and commitment. If she doesn’t love it then shouldn’t she? Wouldn’t he want to know if she was wearing something that she didn’t like? I for example hate yellow gold & I would be disappointed if my ring was yellow gold. I would have said something to my fiance & went back and traded it in for white gold. No shame in having specific preferences. I talked to my fiance about this and he said he would be hurt if he found out he got it wrong when it came to my e-ring & would want to take it back and for me to tell him because the ring was a gift and he wants me to be happy.

My fiance thankfully got my input before buying my ring, I loved that he took the time & consideration to care that I loved it. I asked a question about this on here recently and all these girls jumped down my throat calling me names. I say get off your high horse, stop being so judgmental. If you don’t care about the ring then great but don’t put down other girls just because they do. Some of us just care more about what our e-rings look like that doesn’t mean we are all gold digging superficial women.
******* Tiger81 I think you are so right! Case in point, someone reported my question hahaha. My fiance makes good money too, we are both 30 years old, educated and established in our lives. I put a pic of my ring up asking about which wedding band I should choose and was called names. Or that my ring was ‘showy’ or ‘too big’ one girl asked me what I was trying to prove haha my ring, mind you is barely over a carat but my fiance is going to upgrading it to a 2 carat ring right before the wedding. Imagine the responses I’ll get then! Unbelievable how childish some people are.
Wonder woman, I respect your opinion. Engagement rings don’t matter to you. They matter to me. I have to love everything I wear. Especially if I’m going to wear it for the rest of my life. I also care about my wedding dress, and what my wedding ring is going to look like. I am not superficial because I care about these things. I also disagree with your preschool analogy. I get what I want and maybe not throw a fit but if what I want seems reasonable to me and my fiance is willing to care enough about whether or not I like my e-ring then there is nothing wrong (in my opinion) with having an opinion on what goes on my ring finger until I die.

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